Life with children can be wonderful – and at the same time incredibly exhausting. Many couples realize at some point: all we talk about is logistics, appointments, and to-do lists. Closeness, lightness, and intimacy often fall by the wayside – not out of bad intentions, but simply because there’s no energy left.

You (or you both) might recognize yourselves in some of these scenarios:

• Hardly any time together – everything revolves around kids, work, everyday life
• Conversations become short, functional, or irritable – real connection is missing
• Closeness and sexuality have decreased or disappeared altogether
• One feels overwhelmed, the other withdraws
• Conflicts about parenting, task sharing, or priorities pile up
• A constant sense of “not enough” – not enough sleep, appreciation, or us
• The child(ren) take center stage – and being a couple fades into the background
• Wishes and needs go unspoken – out of consideration or exhaustion
• Shared future plans suddenly seem unclear or unreachable
• Despite love: frustration, distance, or resignation are creeping in

In systemic therapy, we create space for what daily life often pushes aside: genuine connection. We look at unspoken expectations, old patterns, and new roles – and discover together how closeness can grow again. This way, the “parent team” can become a couple again – one that supports, strengthens, and truly sees each other.